Disciplining your child is one of the hardest parts of being a parent. You don’t want to be too forceful to the point of being ineffective and causing an unhealthy relationship with your child; at the same time, you don’t want to be too gentle either and not be able to reinforce the right conduct. Finding the proper balance between the two is challenge for parents, but a skill that will produce great results for getting your child to behave right and learn correctly. This four step plan will help you do just that.
The first step is to give a forewarning of what you want your child to do. For example, tell your child that you will be having dinner soon and to get ready. Five minutes is a good time frame to give a warning for something like this, and expressly state that this is ‘a 5-minute warning.’
The second step is to check if the time limit is up and tell your child again to do whatever action you intended for them, whether it’s to get ready for dinner or anything else—this is where you will probably receive the first bit of noncompliance.
If your child does not listen to what you say, then the third step would be to state your discipline of choice. Deliver the probable consequence only once and do so in a clear and calm way. If you raise your voice too much, the child may become hostile and will not listen to you.
If they do not heed your warning, then you have no choice but to enter step four: the actual discipline. What you’ve threatened earlier should now be enacted. If you don’t follow through, your child will learn that you won’t discipline and lose respect for what you ask of him or her.
Four Steps to Discipline
Disciplining your child can be difficult, but if you follow this four step model and choose the right forms of punishment, then you have a good chance of successfully teaching your child.
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